Every mom wants to make sure that they’re making the right choices and bringing up their little correctly, but without any prior experience, the journey from #mommytobe to mommy on a mission can be a long and lonely road.
From baby burnout to sleepless mombie, the life-changing task of learning to navigate motherhood as a new mom can easily overshadow the sweet little moments that you were once excited to explore.
Don’t let your lack of experience overwhelm your ability to be the kick-ass mom you naturally are. Read a few books, ask a few questions, and learn a few lessons along the way to make your march into motherhood well-informed and ready for mommy mode.
First Time Mom Mistakes that Everyone Makes and the Ones to Definitely Avoid
TMI – For many mothers in the modern age, the siren call of social media leads us to post the latest and most up-to-the-moment photos and information on our little ones to our instafeeds.
Don’t give in to the urge to share every single step, sound, and swaddled nap.
One day, your baby will be an adult, and though it might be fun to share the overview of your adventures as a mom now, don’t handicap your future big boy or girl’s college application, dating profile, or even corporate job hunt later with a naked picture of their first time using the potty.
Those images will live on in the dark of the net forever, and even a well-intentioned deleting spree later on when you decide that maybe showing off your son’s circumcision on Facebook live was more than a little too much, can still leave them archived pretty deeply.
Little Tip: If you’re going to post even a few cursory images of your little, make sure that your settings are restricted to only those who you know and trust. Having an extra layer of security between your little one and the world can’t hurt, and your child’s future self will thank you.
Going It Alone – As a first-time mom, it’s natural to feel a little protective of your new baby.
Like a mama lion on the savannah, you’re the ultimate safety net keeping them from getting injured, so it only makes sense that you want to keep them close at all times.
There is, however, a fine line between keeping your little out of harm’s way and putting yourself in it.
You can’t do everything, and sleep deprivation is likely to lead to unnecessary mistakes and potentially even devastating accidents.
There’s nothing wrong with taking help from someone you trust, remember, this is one journey you don’t have to go alone, and sometimes even the best of moms need a chance to relax.
Little Tip: If you can’t afford help, try enlisting the assistance of a close relative or friend once a week so you can have a glass of wine, take a bath, and recharge what makes you, you.
Compare & Contrast – For your first time around the block of motherhood, you may find that you don’t have many measuring sticks to use when it comes to figuring out just how amazing your little one is.
One of the most natural options when it comes to comparing your little one is by looking at the children of your peers, and it’s easy to get into a measuring contest to find out whose baby is the absolute cutest, smartest, or most photogenic.
Don’t let yourself get locked into the trap, remember that everyone is unique, and even if your little one isn’t excelling everywhere, they’ve got their own strengths and weaknesses, much like you.
Little Tip: The best comparison for your little’s accomplishments is their own past progress. Get excited when they make their next big (sometimes literal stride), and don’t stress out about the speed or level of their development unless a doctor says its time to worry.
Take It For Granted – When it comes to a brand new baby, every moment seems magical and filled to the brim with wonder, until the moment about 30 seconds later when your little one throws up right on your favorite sweater.
As a new mom, you may feel a considerable amount of pressure to treat every little moment as a gift and savor it, but over a long enough period of time, you may find yourself burnt out on whimsy.
Don’t beat yourself up for feeling frustrated or upset.
You’re going to have a ton of moments that will show you just how absolutely incredible being a mom really is, but sometimes, there are going to be moments where being a mom is miserable.
It doesn’t make you a bad mom to know the difference, it makes you human.
Little Tip: When you’re feeling burnt out on baby and miss a little mystery in your life, try breaking up your current routine. Get dressed up for your day even if you’re not going anywhere special. Take a walk down the street with your baby, to get a little exercise and fresh air. Call a mom friend with littles similar in age to yours and have lunch delivered while you guys let the kids play. A small change in your day to day might be enough to make you feel the magic you so desperately miss.
Found Out About You – As you prep for your very first child, you’re going to hear an absolute ton of information from everyone you know and numerous strangers who feel oddly comfortable handing out life advice just because you’ve got a baby bump.
Some of what you hear will be facts, some anecdotes, and by and large, it will be nothing more than unsubstantiated claims.
Don’t believe every tale of horror that you hear from those around you.
Your Information should come solely from your Doctor, Your books, and only those who you implicitly trust in your life.
Not only can listening to the unwelcomed advice from random strangers on the L train be annoying and invasive, taking the unproven advice about anything medically serious could prove to be honestly dangerous.
Little Tip: Trust in your instincts, and know that as the closest one to your baby, you know them as completely as is possible, and you know what’s best for them. Listen to your friends and family, but at the end of the day, realize that the opinions of you and your partner are the ones that truly matter.